Solitude
Learning to Be Alone Without Being Lonely
There's a difference between solitude and loneliness. It took me a long time to find it — and even longer to love it.
September 20267 min readRead →
The Inner Work
The real stuff. No toxic positivity.
Self-discovery without the performance. Essays on grief, identity, fear, anger, and what it actually takes to know yourself.
This is not a self-help column.
I'm not going to tell you to journal your way to joy or meditate until the hard things stop being hard. The inner work I'm interested in is messier than that — and more honest.
These essays are for the woman who has done the work and still has more to do. Who knows herself pretty well and is still surprised by herself. Who is not broken, just human.
Featured essay
Therapy & Growth
I Finally Went to Therapy. Here's What I Wasn't Expecting.
I thought therapy would be about fixing what was wrong with me. Turns out it was about meeting who I actually am.
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Grief
What Nobody Tells You About Grieving a Life You Chose to Leave
You can grieve something you wanted to end. The loss is real even when the leaving was right.
September 20269 min readRead →
Identity
Who Are You When Nobody's Watching?
I spent decades performing a version of myself. The question that changed everything was: who am I when the audience leaves?
August 20268 min readRead →
Fear
The Fear That Looks Like Practicality
Sometimes the most dangerous fear is the one that sounds completely reasonable.
August 20266 min readRead →
Anger
On Finally Letting Myself Be Angry
Good girls don't get angry. I was a very good girl for a very long time.
July 20267 min readRead →
"The inner work isn't about becoming someone new. It's about finally meeting the person you've always been."
Further reading
Books that changed how I see myself.
The Body Keeps the Score
Bessel van der Kolk
On trauma, the body, and healing.
Women Who Run With the Wolves
Clarissa Pinkola Estés
On the wild, instinctual nature of women.
Untamed
Glennon Doyle
On breaking free from the life you were supposed to want.
The Artist's Way
Julia Cameron
On recovering your creative, authentic self.
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